My Silent Words to the Nurses

She may have heart failure, but her ears still work.

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This woman is my mother-in-law. She’s raised 3 strong, handsome and good sons, and buried one. She’s laid one of her five daughters to rest, and the other four would, and do, anything for her. She is cherished by nineteen grandchildren and 27 great grandchildren. She watched her husband, and father of her children, take his last breath on this earth, then laid him in the ground.

She is strong. She is proud. Give her some dignity. At this stage of her life, dignity is a distant memory. Do you think it’s easy having to let everyone take care of you, when you were the one taking care of them? As you provide care for her, treat her as you would your mother or grandmother. Be compassionate, empathetic, and kind.

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When you are in her room, and you repeatedly tell the other care providers, “she’s very heavy, much heavier than I thought”, or “she had a diaper on when she arrived”, she can hear you. Do you know why she’s heavy? It’s because her heart is not working the way it should. She is full of fluid, in her lungs too, which is why we are here. Yes she’s heavy, but a month ago she was thin. She wasn’t wearing a “diaper”, she was wearing ladies Depends underwear. Do you know why? Her heart is not working properly and she is very weak. It takes time to get to the bathroom. How do you think your words make her feel. As you situate her in her room, give her dignity. Cover her legs, she is a modest woman.

Remember, her ears still work.

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Mom with her son, my husband

Have you ever not been able to get air, to breath. Have you ever felt the panic of gasping for air, as your lungs refuse to take it in. Try it sometime. Hold your breath for as long as you can, then hold it longer. Do you feel like you will pass out? She has pneumonia, fluid build up and heart failure and everything that goes along with it. She didn’t ask for this, and she doesn’t want to be here, but here she is. All I ask is that you give her dignity at this stage of her life.

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Mom with my grandson, who she helped raise.

She’s not just another patient. She’s the woman who raised my husband into the wonderful and good man he is today. She held my babies and helped me to be a good wife and mother. She cared for my grandchild from infancy to grade school. He had recently had open heart surgery, but she took him in without fear. She loves the Lord her God and her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren with all her heart. Her mind is as sharp as a new razor. So as you provide care for her… remember…

…her ears still work.

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My mother-in-law and me

 

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My version of Chef Billy Parisi’s Apple Cake

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Apple Cake Recipe with Oatmeal Streusel

This looked so fabulous to me this morning, so I decided I would give it a try. As I began to gather the ingredients, I realized this was going to be a typical Deana baking fiasco.

I love to cook, I just don’t like to shop. When I want to make something, and I am missing a few ingredients, I scour my cupboards and frig for substitutions that will suffice. Sometimes (most times) I add extra things that I like. Once in a while it works, and today was no exception. Billy‘s recipe calls for sour cream, of which I had none, so I pulled out my last lemon cream pie yogurt. Have you seen the prices on Honey Crisp Apples?  Highway robbery! 2 Gala’s and 1 Granny Smith would have to do. I didn’t have Almond meal for the streusel, but I did have Bob’s Red Mill Natural Foods Flax seed meal, and thought the nutty favor would be perfect.

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I had planned on making a batch of granola today, but I didn’t have enough oats for that so the whole oats, shredded coconut and pecan halves all went into the streusel instead.

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I always have self-rising flour in stock, so I used that in place of the all purpose four and baking powder. I left the salt out too, since I had bought salted butter to make rice krispies treats. The batter came out so rich and creamy!

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I greased the cast iron dutch oven with coconut oil, and spooned the thick batter into the pot. I had the streusel ready, and crumbled it over the top, completely covering the batter.

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I baked it at 350 for 30 minutes before I checked the batter, and it was not done. i put 10 more minutes on the timer and checked it again, still not done, but after another 10 minutes, I took it out and let it rest on the stove. For that final 20 minutes, I  put my flat cast iron skillet under the dutch over,  because I was worried that the bottom would over cook.

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It turned out perfect, I was a little surprised, actually. The topping was perfectly toasted and crunchy & delicious. The bread of the cake was so moist and soft and perfectly cooked. the bottom was not burned! Yeah 🙂 It turned out so good! The one thing I didn’t make was the caramel drizzle and I didn’t have ice cream, but it was still delicious, and there’s lots left and the weekend’s not over yet 😉

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Please visit Billy’s website for the complete recipe: http://www.billyparisi.com/apple-cake-recipe-oatmeal-streusel/

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This cake is definitely Holiday Gift-Worthy. Make up the caramel sauce, and put it n a pretty little jar with a ribbon and the recipe on a card. Viola! Merry Christmas ❤

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Heralding in the Season with DIY Gifts

They’ll think you’re an Angel when you give them homemade soaps full of love!

Make it! …with Bulk Apothecary this year.

eSight for Sydney

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Sydney Kiersten Natividad has been legally blind from birth. Sydney has Optic Nerve Hypoplasia. Sydney, with her little brother and her parents, Delilah and Richard Natividad, went to Dallas for a consultation with eSight. For the first time, Sydney saw her beautiful momma, her handsome daddy, and adorable little brother. Sydney saw that she looked like her momma, and realized that she was beautiful, just like her momma had always told her! Some day Sydney can own her very own eSight vision device! Will you help? Deana’s “Skin by Nature” Shop will donate 40% of your purchase to Sydney. When we come together, we can make wonderful things happen!

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Zucchini Pizza Bites

I’m notorious for making what I want, with whatever I have. If I’m missing an ingredient in a recipe, I’m more apt to improvise, than run to the store to get what I’m missing.

Many of you, (known or unbeknownst) have eaten my “Clean out your refrigerator” concoctions and lived to tell the tale! My “Clean out your refrigerator” Cookies were a massive hit, but when asked for the recipe, all they got from me was a blank look…..

I’ve got to start writing it down, or, better yet, take pictures of what I’m doing.

Anyway, I shared one of Country Living Magazine’s Facebook posts on my wall, https://www.facebook.com/dinanana/posts/10207085009706748?pnref=story

the “Best Zucchini Pizza Bites Recipe”  https://www.facebook.com/CountryLiving/

http://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a43638/mini-zucchini-pizzas-recipe/

I didn’t have Marinara sauce, or Mozzarella cheese, so I went spelunking through the cupboards and found one small can of tomato sauce, garlic powder and sweet basil, and cheddar.

I did, however, have the most delicious garden-fresh zucchini from Mandujano Brother’s Produce.  https://www.facebook.com/Mandujano-Brothers-Produce-110654835624738/

After having nothing more than a peanut butter sandwich all day, this really hit the spot!

The man of the house is out getting Shelby’s hooves trimmed, so I’ll probably need to make more because I ate most of these already! He may want something a bit more “robust” as well, we’ll see what else is in the refrigerator 😉

YUMMY

 

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