My Silent Words to all Caregivers

She may have heart failure, but her ears still work.


This woman is my mother-in-law. She’s raised 3 strong, handsome and good sons, and buried one. She’s laid one of her five daughters to rest, and the other four would, and do, anything for her. She is cherished by nineteen grandchildren and 27 great grandchildren. She watched her husband, and father of her children, take his last breath on this earth, then laid him in the ground.

She is strong. She is proud. Give her some dignity. At this stage of her life, dignity is a distant memory. Do you think it’s easy having to let everyone take care of you, when you were the one taking care of them? As you provide care for her, treat her as you would your mother or grandmother. Be compassionate, empathetic, and kind.


Do you know why she’s here? It’s because her heart is not working the way it should. She is full of fluid, in her lungs too. She is very tired and weak. Think about how your words make her feel. As you situate her in her room, give her dignity, she is a modest woman.

Remember, her ears still work.


Mom with her son, my husband

Have you ever not been able to get air, to breath. Have you ever felt the panic of gasping for air, as your lungs refuse to take it in. Try it sometime. Hold your breath for as long as you can, then hold it longer. Do you feel like you will pass out? She has pneumonia, fluid build up and heart failure and everything that goes along with it. She didn’t ask for this, and she doesn’t want to be here, but here she is. All I ask is that you give her dignity at this stage of her life.


Mom with my grandson, who she helped raise.

She’s not just another patient. She’s the woman who raised my husband into the wonderful and good man he is today. She held my babies and helped me to be a good wife and mother. She cared for my grandchild from infancy to grade school. He had recently had open heart surgery, but she took him in without fear. She loves the Lord her God and her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren with all her heart. Her mind is as sharp as a new razor. So as you provide care for her… remember…

…her ears still work.


My mother-in-law and me


A Cowboy’s Conversation with God.


Cowboy: Lord, thank You for blessing our nation with freedom.
God: Freedom is not a blessing to everyone, son.
Cowboy: Why, Lord?
God: Because some use their God-given freedom selfishly, and even refuse to be thankful.
Cowboy: Why do you continue to give them freedom then?
God: Because as long as there is a heartbeat, there is hope they will change.
Cowboy: What can I do, Lord?
God: Remember that real freedom is not about doing what you want, but about doing what you should, with My Spirit’s help. Let that kind of freedom shine through you.
Cowboy: With Your help, Lord, I will.

“For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom…” (2 Cor. 3:17)

Horseback Gospel


God gives them to us- men and women of courage who are willing to put their lives on the line for the cause of freedom. They step up and put themselves in harm’s way so that we can enjoy another day of liberty. And some have paid the ultimate price, dying for this country and what she stands for. Honor the fallen today, and give praise to God. “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.” (James 1:17)